When I look back at who I was 8 years ago when I began dating my wife I get the sense I’m watching a character in a film I used to play. Simply put, I’m not the same person.
In essence I am the same, yet on so many levels I have become a totally different person.
Let me explain…
When Jenn and I fell in love we saw and sensed each other’s heart and soul. Our Higher Selves recognized each other and bended the universe for us to meet and be together.
And like most relationships the beginning of our romantic journey was imbued with love, passion, joy and a very powerful desire stay connected. However, as the months passed we also began to witness in each other our unresolved past in the form of pain, dysfunctional personalities, defense mechanisms and other manifestations of the Ego.
My Past Issues
As my unresolved emotions, personalities and negative thought-forms came to the surface I started to project them onto my beloved. In those moments I lost sight of her essence and mine.
I knew these issues did not resonate with the Ascended Relationship I desired to manifest and so it became crystal clear that I had to heal them or otherwise my dream of being in a higher loving conscious relationship would come to an end.
Here is a list of some of the biggest issues I used to have that were detrimental to my relationship:
- Poverty consciousness – I was incredibly stingy when I met Jenn and my approach to finances was 50/50 regardless if I made more money than her. I was awful at giving gifts or buying things for others. Jenn was the polar opposite, one of the most giving people I have met.
- Self-righteousness – my need to be right constantly caused arguments in our relationships and made it very difficult for me to accept that I was wrong and even more to say “I’m sorry.” Not to mention it made me a horrible listener and our communication was suffering due to my stubbornness.
- Selfishness – when I met Jenn I was uber-focused on embodying my Higher Self. I had a very strong vertical connection to my Higher Self and because of this I was constantly in my world, often oblivious to her needs.
Needless to say these issues caused a lot of drama in our relationship. And to be honest I came to the realization that these issues were making me very unhappy. Deep inside I intuitively knew that my true self was kind, flexible, open, compassionate, caring and giving.
In order for me to become the highest version of myself I had to change.
The #1 Requisite For A Thriving Relationship: Change/Growth
Thankfully I have always been a fan of healing and self-growth. Diligently I began to process, transmute and heal all the unresolved emotions and energetic blockages related to the SOURCE of my relationship pain and drama.
In a way I was peeling layers and layers of outdated ways of being, feeling and perceiving. Every time I processed an issue I became lighter and veils of mis-perception were lifted.
“People don’t mature through age, they mature through awareness.” – Byron Katie
I began to see my wife and myself with new eyes. I had become a new person and so did she. We began to discover deeper and more pure aspects from one another. This created an incredible sense of novelty and wonder within us towards each other, which in turn infused our relationship with a sense of freshness and novelty.
As I reflect on our relationship journey I’ve come to realize that for a relationship to THRIVE you have to constantly grow and change.
Otherwise you become stagnant and the relationship is overtaken by a boring comfort zone of familiarity that is deprived of passion, intimacy and true joy.
When you are constantly improving and changing outdated versions of yourself to more functional ways of being, eventually you will not be the same person you once were but rather you will become an updated/improved version of yourself.
CAUTION: Not All Change is Equal
The number one reason why most people change in relationships is because of co-dependency. Co-dependency stems from the lack of self-love and the fear of not being loved.
When people change because of co-dependency they are not growing as a person or improving who they are, instead they are putting on a mask in hopes that the other person will give them love, approval and appreciation. People in co-dependent relationships end up walking on eggshells around the other person and in the process they lose themselves.
Change that is born out of self-love is change that will uplift, inspire and reveal who you truly are. The reason people don’t embody their Higher Self is because the roles they are playing, the emotions they are energizing and the thought-forms they identify with do not resonate with the awareness of the Higher Self.
Simply put, if you want to embody your Higher Self then you have to change in ways that align with this version of who you are.
Why Change is Often Difficult
Have you ever noticed a sabotaging pattern within you, made a commitment to change it and then later found yourself getting back to your old ways?
The reason why you might be struggling with change is because in order to permanently change the root cause of your issues you have to go deeper than the rational mind. Realizations are vital to our growth and sometimes they can permanently transform us.
However, most of the time realizations are only the first step in our journey towards permanent change. Beyond becoming aware and psychoanalyzing a pattern you must disengage the energetic blockages that spawned the negative behavior in the first place:
- Traumatic experiences
- Soul fragments and false identifications
- Karmic imprints
- Entanglements with parents
- Societal implants
Unless you clear these energetic blockages your attempts to achieve long lasting change will be futile. These blockages will continue to get triggered and cause you to have a series of re-actions where you will project the past unresolved energies contained within them onto the present moment.
Plus their frequency will keep attracting you to the same people, places, times, things and events that are most likely to trigger you and keep you stuck in a karmic loop.
Quantum Level Change
Everything in our reality, including who we are is made up of energy. This energy is arranged in specific grids and frequencies that allow the same energy substance from the ONE to come into manifestation as infinite possibilities and forms.
Soul fragments, karmic imprints and negative thought-forms all have a unique low vibrating frequency. Using the Law of Resonance you can use higher vibrational frequencies to interact with these blockages and unwind them.
The Harmonic Resonance Codes are higher vibrational energy mandalas made up of light and sound mathematical programs that have been created specifically to unwind and transmute energy blockages at the quantum level of your awareness.
For years I’ve been clearing myself and helping others clear their energy blockages using the Harmonic Resonance Codes. You can take advantage of these codes when you register for the 5D Relationship Manifestation Portal.
The 5D Relationship Manifestation Portal contains a video meditation/session that combines 11 different Harmonic Resonance Codes to clear the highest priority relationship blockages and activate the transcendental principles that make up an Ascended Relationship.
When you get access to this portal you’ll have 24/7 access to a transformational tool that will help you clear your relationship karmic slate and embody the highest version of yourself.
One Last Thing
When people start feeling resistances in their relationships, they believe that this is what is wrong with the relationship. But actually it is quite the opposite, as you begin to uncover your inner resistances through your partner and the past pain begins to surface, those experiences are showing you what is RIGHT with the relationship and what YOU should work on.
Those resistances are the entry points for you to process, heal and unwind in order to ultimately find your true self and finally meet your beloved. But as long as you run away from these resistances you will continue to project them to any relationship you may manifest.